“Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me the danger is very real, but fear is a choice.” -Will Smith
Fear can cripple you in the worst way if you let it. I’m a witness. Up until a certain point, I lived my life scared of people’s opinions, failure, and a laundry list of other things. Then I saw a video Will Smith made on this very subject, and it changed my mindset forever. Will said, “the best things of life are on the other side of terror.” In my mind, I’m like, “damn…I never thought of it like that.”
Below are going to be a few things that I now know are bringing me one step closer to a fearless Alexandra.
Identify your fears:
Whether you write them down or silently go over them in your head. Pinpoint what fears you have. The courage to identify your fears brings you halfway to succeeding. Fear can be hidden in your words and beliefs (negative thoughts).
Analyze your fears:
You’ve identified your fears, and now it’s time to figure out why are you scared of these things and ask yourselves these questions:
- Why am I afraid of this?
- Am I scared of failure?
- What does failure look like to me?
- How was I treated when I failed in the past?
Attitudes and experiences associated with specific situations are essential. So a simple mind change will take you in a new direction.
Change your viewpoint:
Now that we know what’s going on mentally it’s time to FACE IT! Are those fears realistic? If you are afraid of failure, understand you have already failed. Here’s a simple mind change; instead of looking at failure in a negative light, look at it as a lesson to propel forward. No one wants the woulda, shoulda, coulda thoughts. At least you tried. And then try again until you succeed.
Think about when you first learned a game. You probably sucked nine times out of ten. Or ladies the first time you ever did makeup. It probably wasn’t the best application right? But as you kept practicing it, you became better every day. Look at every endeavor this way. Just because you “failed” the first time, doesn’t mean you won’t get better, but you have to keep trying.
Jolie’s I will leave you with this; there is no reason to be scared. We have the world at our fingertips, and it is time to grab what is rightfully ours. “Failure is a massive part of being able to be successful”-Will Smith. So go out and fail to win!